L in LaLa Land

August 23, 2012

August Roundup

ImageDid you miss us? It’s that time again for my once in every 2-4 months post LOL. New apartment and daycare seem to be working out well.  I’m trying to decorate, but I was not born with that womanly skill AT ALL! I need help…desperately! I’m very plain Jane-ish but I want my apartment to look welcoming.  However, it’s hard to stay motivated to decorate with a destructive two-year-old living with you.

Speaking of my angel, the daycare change is going beautifully.  He is still going through his terrible terrific twos (depending on the hour), but he’s growing and becoming more independent each day.  We are pretty much fully potty-trained with accidents only happening overnight once in a blue moon.  I must give props to the daycare for that, because they had me put Alex in underwear after being there for only one week.  There is one kid in his class that I have “issues” with, so I’m going to have Daddy handle that because I am NO GOOD with confrontation…I’m too nice.  I’m trying to be proactive with his learning because he seems to be leaps and bounds ahead of most of the kids in his class, but I don’t want to push him too much either.  It’s a blessing and a curse to have such a smart child. LOL! But seriously, I’m running out of age-appropriate material for him.  If I can hold out until Christmas, my next gift will be the LeapFrog reader or even the LeapPad (my niece has a LeapPad and it’s amazing!).

On the home front, me and the Man are great!  We just celebrated 3 years of marriage (5 years of being together) and it’s still like when we just met.  We are both trying to be healthier, however he seems to be better at it than I am.  It’s kind of hard when you HATE to sweat!  Work is uneventful, but I love it. Health-wise, I’m on my full dose of Rebif and I have good days and bad days. I get a recheck in September, so we’ll see how I’m really doing.  New goals for the end of the year are: lose 10-15lbs, find a babysitter (we need some adult time), get this apartment looking nice, and find a church home up here (yea, I admit we have been slacking on that end).

Any new goals for my friends out there?

July 11, 2012

It’s Been Forever!

I’m always saying that since I’m never near a computer to post anything! LOL! Let’s see, new stuff since I last posted: Alex had his 2nd birthday (Mickey Mouse Clubhouse theme), I’ve been working at the hospital, we moved to the north side of town (about 10min commute), and I’ve been able to make sense of weird stuff going on with me.
Second Birthday: Awesome! Close friends and family and the best thing that I could’ve purchased…A BALL PIT.


Work: I love it! I got the hours I wanted and work in the section I wanted. People are great and it’s like a mini family (most days)
Move: We had to do it. Our health and family time was suffering. The hubby and I work about 5 minutes apart and driving an hour and a half to work in two different cars was not the business. Now we have less than a 10minute commute and it’s a better neighborhood. We even got little man into a new daycare (same company, new location).


Me: Well, I had been having weird numbness/weakness in my legs and bouts of vertigo as well as other things. After numerous tests with a neurologist, I was diagnosed with MS (multiple sclerosis). Start on Rebif this week. Both husband and baby (and my friends too) have been awesome through this! That’s all I’m gonna say about it, because this will NOT change me.
Baby Alex: He has always been a talker but now he just won’t STOP! He still has some tantrums, but what 2yr old doesn’t? I say he is awesome and annoying all at the same time! We are pretty much potty trained (minus overnight but I don’t want to push that) and the new daycare is to thank for that. I was working with PullUps potty timer/watch and they said, “put him in underwear“. Two weeks of accidents every few days and now NO MORE. The daycare is more diverse, so seeing him interact with different cultures and nationalities is kind of funny. He has taken over my Kindle that daddy bought me for my birthday, but he is learning on it. The other day I caught him spelling and I was in shock! Anyhow, I could talk about him for days…

Before…

…and AFTER!!!

What’s new in your world?

March 4, 2012

I Have a Lil’ Young Man!

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It seemed like only last month (it was probably 2 months ago actually) that this lil’ one would fall out screaming when he wanted something. Talk about stressful! I would always tell him, “use your words please” “what exactly do you need?” This morning he shocked me by calmly saying, “Have yogurt?” I gave him a raised eyebrow and “Please” shortly followed. Where did this young man come from?! Just goes to show you that the ‘falling out screaming’ phase will get better and if you stick to YOUR manners, your lil one will copy what they hear. Trust me, toddlers copy EVERYTHING. But that’s for another post!

February 29, 2012

What’s New in La La Land

Quick update, but this post will be loaded with pictures.  I haven’t posted since our trip to Oklahoma, but not much has happened. Well, actually that’s a lie.  We had Christmas, grandmommie visited, mommy turned 30, daddy had surgery, mommy had surgery, and Alex grows each day as a toddler.  His vocabulary is amazing!  I worry about music on the radio because he picks up EVERYTHING (but he doesn’t know what those words mean).  We’re getting out of the temper tantrum phase, so my nerves are a little better. I passed my MLT certification and start working at the hospital on Monday (yay! excitement!).  Daddy and I are even looking at houses, seeing that our commute is over an hour long for the BOTH of us.  Anyhow, here is the past few months in pictures:

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November 22, 2011

Traveling with a Toddler

I thought I was prepared.  I read numerous blogs on the topic, I talked about it with the little one days in advance, I was even armed with snacks and videos.  Nothing, I tell you nothing, could have prepared me for this!  And by this, I mean, traveling alone, by plane, with my 18 month old son.

I was surprising my best friend (of now 12 years?? wow!) for her birthday.  Alex and I were scheduled to be on a flight from Atlanta to Oklahoma at 9pm on a Friday night.  The Tuesday before, I started freaking out.  Even now, as I write this post, I’m getting anxiety again!  I read blog after blog after blog, both personal and those on parenting sites, trying to get prepared.  99% of them said that it wasn’t that bad and these people took their kids overseas and was fine.   Still, my mind was saying, “You don’t know MY child.  What if he runs off at security? Will security give him or me a hard time? How will I get him to sit STILL on my LAP for 2 HOURS?!?!”  Wednesday, I packed my clothes and freaked out some more.  I contemplated buying a leash harness, but decided against it.  Thursday, I packed the baby bag making sure I had his Pediasure (my toddler’s kryptonite) and snacks and games.  I relaxed at the hair salon some until my stylist told me the horror stories of traveling with her 6 month old (opening his diaper, tasting the milk….before TSA policies were changed).  Friday, I had complete and total inner meltdown.  My awesome husband told me to relax since the baby would feed off of my energy.  I tried to calm down, I couldn’t.  I rushed to Target to get the harness that I had decided against.  I picked up the little man from daycare and packed the rest of our things.  The husband came home with an early birthday gift for me (a Kindle Fire) that was loaded with all the baby’s videos for the trip.  This brought my anxiety level down from a 13 to probably a 9.  I also went ahead and gave the little guy some of his cold medicine, thinking he would get tired on the plane.

WRONG!  I knew it would be wrong and thought it might help.  With the excitement of the airport, a new environment, and being overtired, my little man was WIDE OPEN.  I used the harness while putting stuff in the bins at security.  Thank goodness for it because he tried to dart underneath the rope.  He did however, had to walk through the metal detector with it off and by himself (which made him want to run through it about 3 times).  I couldn’t get the harness back on him fast enough at the other end before he took off running through the airport, leaving me to run after him IN SOCKS while all the bags were left on the conveyor belt (I caught him though before he got too far).  We didn’t have much time in the terminal before getting on the plane which we were allowed to get on board first.  He enjoyed looking out the window and drinking his Pediasure until the guy who actually had the window seat boarded, to which he let out a blood curdling scream.

I'm going to scream in 3....2....1..

 For the 1st hour of the flight, Alex did really well with the Kindle videos (THANK YOU HUBBY!!), but then got bored and learned how to skip through them.  Me and our seat buddy then entertained him by turning off and on the overhead lights.  Finally, he got tired and fell asleep for 30 min but woke during the 15min landing.  I combatted his ears popping by giving him something to drink but he still screamed the last 5 min.

Watching Best of Elmo's World 2

The flight home was totally different.  Because he actually started getting a cold, I still medicated him but 4 hours before our flight.  He got a burst of energy but ran it out at my friend’s house.  By the time we got to the airport, he was exhausted.  Security decided to close the check-in point right by the drop off area and my gate so I had to walk a little further.  He had fun again at the metal detectors but didn’t stray too far.  I had one bottle of Pediasure left (from a whole 6-pack) which OKC TSA made me open, but luckily I gave it to him while collecting my bags and putting my shoes back on.  We grabbed some Moe’s at the terminal and while I was collecting my garbage he decided to dart off again.  I had grabbed the harness JUST IN TIME (which was our last time using it).  The plane was pretty empty so he had his own seat by the window.  This was an evening flight as well, so he relaxed with the Kindle for pretty much the whole flight.

Buckling his seatbelt

That is of course until we landed.  He didn’t want to drink ANYTHING for me and thankfully, a gentleman leaned over and rubbed his ears until they popped (which takes a little pressure and I was rubbing too gently).
 
All in all, it WAS a great trip.  We both survived even though my nerves are still bad.  Would I travel alone with my son again? No. But I’m more prepared for the next flight (which is Christmas time).  Here a some items/travel tips that I learned/recommend:
  1. Bring a portable DVD Player or anything with your child’s favorite movies
  2. Snacks (make sure they won’t get taken away at security) or money for food/snacks in the terminal
  3. If it will make you sane, buy a harness (for those just in case moments)
  4. Games/Toys that are age appropriate
  5. Be aware that medication is only for sick children (and can have the opposite effect)
  6. Find the fun in everything (with us, it was the overhead lights)
  7. Your child feeds off your energy, so make sure to travel with patience
  8. Don’t worry about what others think (this was a major cause of my anxiety)
  9. Lots of people travel with kids and all of them, both parents and children, act differently.  Find what works for you!

Do you guys have anything to add?

October 17, 2011

Toddler Bootcamp

Since these last few weeks of clinical training for school, I haven’t been able to spend time with Alex like I want to. We have been potty training and working on vocabulary as I got him ready for school in the morning and ready for bed in the evening. But these past six weeks while I was training, Daddy took him to school in the morning and I was just to exhausted in the evening.  Potty training took more than a backseat since the daycare wasn’t enforcing it like I thought. Alex started acting out and screaming for things since I wasn’t there as much as I used to be (and yes, this broke my heart entirely). So, I decided that during my two week break from clinicals, Alex was gonna go through “Toddler Bootcamp”.

But why mommy? You know I love you right?!?

For me, Toddler Bootcamp was heavy (well heavier, since I’m not TRYING to stress it too much) potty training, introducing new words and making sure he used his words when asking for things. So far, today Monday is day 3.  I am proud to say that Alex has been asking for the potty consistently and we are back up to approximately 50%. Also, there have been less meltdowns but he’s been slightly under the weather so that calls for more cuddling rather than falling out in front of the fridge because I can’t tell whether he wants yogurt, milk, pediasure, or water.

So, what am I doing different? Pottying: asking more often, paying more attention to cues, and for about 2-3hrs a day he is diaper-free. Vocabulary/Manners: introduce new words as often as possible, reinforce manners where important like the dinner table, make sure that both Daddy and I use manners. Other things: discipline with this little one has been HARD. We have a timeout chair which he does sometimes but in true mischievous little boy fashion, he loves to disobey.  So for now, taking the Nanny Jo approach with timeout, explain afterwards what was wrong, child apologize, hug and keep it moving. Let’s hope all this stuff works!

What is new with your little ones? Am I crazy for putting little man through “toddler bootcamp”?

August 3, 2011

My Doula Experience

My friend Katena had a beautiful little boy 6 months ago and throughout pregnancy and labor she had many questions for me (since my son Alex is 9 months older). I spoke highly of my midwife, my birth plan, and most importantly my doula. Yes, I had a doula. Her name is Dee Dee and she is pretty awesome! I thought that she would be more of a coach for my husband (who likes to stay attached to his blackberry and the idea of that happening during my labor made me….angry LOL). However, she was more there for me during my braxton hicks and prodromal labor and the intense contractions after they gave me pitocin in the hospital. I always knew that Dee Dee had a calming and beautiful aura around herself and that’s exactly what I needed in labor and delivery. In a way, I became a mini coach for Katena during her delivery and it made me feel pretty awesome that I could help her like Dee Dee helped me.  Katena interviewed me about my doula and you can read it here

June 16, 2011

Why I Chose to Breastfeed

My mom breastfed me. That’s all I knew. I wasn’t sure for how long or what the reasoning was but my mom breastfed me. Therefore, I always knew that I would breastfeed my own child when I had one. A few years ago, my sister’s friend came to visit from her new home in Africa. She had her child with her and that was my first encounter with extended breastfeeding. Sitting on our couch, she knew her child was hungry and fed her right there. Amazingly, I was not “grossed out” by someone who was breastfeeding her child with teeth.
Then in 2009 I became pregnant. About 20wks into my pregnancy, I decided to take charge of my birth along with the help of my midwife. Within my research, I found many support groups on both birth and breastfeeding. It was then I learned that breastfeeding wasn’t as simple as putting baby to the breast. There are two people in the equation (mother AND baby) and they both have to “know” what they were doing. So armed with information and determination, I was ready.
The day of delivery didn’t go as planned. I ended up being induced and then had a c-section, but I was happy my little bundle of joy got here safely. However, while I was recovering from my c-section, the nurses took my little man to Special Care area where he was offered a bottle. Luckily, I brought my pump with me to the hospital and I pumped colostrum along with his feeding schedule in Special Care. They would not “release” him from Special Care until he took the required amount of formula (this is a major Booby Trap). I would go and attempt to latch him but he just wasn’t ready (which was the issue the nurses had with the bottle). 2 days later, he knew what to do and latched on like a champ. 2 days after that, my milk came in and there was no looking back.
I went back to work VERY EARLY, but I was determined to breastfeed my child a whole year. I set up a lactation room at my job and at school my teachers let me use their offices. Anytime I had issues, I would look to my online support groups. I found safe havens like Best for Babes, Blacktating, and The Leaky B@@b. It was the latter 2 that had me asking my husband, “what do you think if I breastfed for 2years?”
However, as my son’s first year came to an end, so did our nursing relationship. My son was more interested in exploring and I was getting “touched out”. At around 9mths, my pumping slowed down to 1-2x a day. By the time he was 11mths, he was nursing only once every 2-3 days. Our last nursing session was 2 days after his 1st birthday.

My advice to new moms wanting to breastfeed? 1) Read read read. 2) Find a healthcare provider that will support you in your efforts. 3) Use your lactation consultant to the fullest at the hospital (especially if its a good one). 4) Know that breastfeeding takes time and dedication but you can do it. Besides any amount of time breastfeeding is great. 5) Find support groups that you would like to be a part of. 6) And most importantly, don’t feel discouraged. Just do your best and forget the rest!

January 8, 2011

Dear Daycare

Once again, my annoyance with his daycare class leads me to this letter:

Dear Daycare,
What the hell are you feeding my child?
Love, Me

Over the Christmas vacay and every weekend, my child is “regular” (read: he is having a bowel movement everyday). About Tues/Wed, he is stopped up like a cork. So bad, that he is crying and shaking trying to get ANYTHING out. I do daily belly exercises and baby yoga to help him. I have inspected each daily report and I’ve come to the conclusion that it must be the rice cereal. We feed organic brown rice at home occasionally and oatmeal cereal doesn’t seem to cause the problem either. So Monday morning I’m headed there to let them know (with a doctor’s note in hand)! It makes me wonder tho, HOW MUCH cereal are they feeding him to cause a blockage like that?

December 2, 2010

My Diastasis Has Got Me Down

At approximately 36wks pregnant (when EVERYONE  sworn I would’ve given birth by then), I went for my weekly check up with my midwife. I of course was depressed that I was only 1cm still, but I noticed while laying on the table that I had a slight bulge on my belly (that WASN’T the baby). Of course, being the slight hypochondriac that I am, I say “What’s that?” She nonchalantly says, “Oh, its a hernia. It should go away after childbirth.” I was ok with this WHILE AT THE OFFICE, but as soon as I got home I jumped on google. Word of advice, while pregnant, do NOT google everything (however, you should research and make informed and educated decisions on your pregnancy and birth). So google scared me half to death about women who herniated while pregnant. As my husband likes to say tho, it already was done so my goal was fixing it or not dwelling on it. I didn’t dwell on it because I was already paranoid enough. So naturally, after my c-section of my 8lb 2oz baby (yeah he was a lot bigger than they thought), while lying in bed I saw my stomach move and asked “is there another baby in there?!?” My doctor (where my midwife practiced) explained that my abdominal muscles separated during pregnancy and that what I was seeing was my intestines move. Eww gross. He then explained that the only way to fix it was through exercise and after 6wks, if I heal up nicely, that I could begin with 1 crunch a week and work up every 2wks. Imagine my attitude after a MALE doctor told me to workout after having a baby! By my 6wk checkup, I had learned that I had what’s called Diastasis Recti (probably with a slight hernia, yea its still there). There are two options to fix it, surgery (tummy tuck) or what’s called the Tupler Technique (a series of exercises targeted at closing the gap). I definitely wasn’t going to do surgery because I eventually plan on having at least ONE more child. I asked my ob/gyn (same guy who told me to exercise) about diastasis and the Tupler exercises. His response was, “Look, I’ll be happy if you just WORKOUT. Most of the clients here do not.” Wow, ok. I began, wrapping, binding, and whatever else I could do to pull my muscles together(and hide my belly). That worked for approx 1 month. Fast forward to now (4 months later) and I started P90X (which has been recommended NOT to do while having diastasis, so I skipped a lot of the ab work that strained that area). I went back to researching the Tupler Technique after week 2 of P90X. I was getting upset with what I had seen in the mirror. My body was showing results but my belly was still…gross. I stumbled upon a blog Shape of a Mother and that made me feel somewhat better. Beautiful women that had children and how they look. However, I’m sick of feeling the way I do about my belly (I look about 4-5mths preggo, I think I have a 8 finger separation) so I’ve decided to go ahead and get the Diastasis Rehab package. I wish there was someone here in Atlanta that did the training but there isn’t. So, as soon as I start, I’ll keep you updated on my progress. Wish me luck! Any other ladies with body issues after baby or dealing with diastasis?

He stuck out like a bullet which probably caused the diastasis

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